Author Archives: Dan Oestreich

I am a leadership consultant, coach, and trainer. My mission is to be a portal to a better world through the healing, growth, and development of leaders. I believe the biggest challenges we face are self-knowledge and communicating to others with truth and care. My Oestreich Associates website is here.

On Unfairness

The very word, “unfairness,” if you slow down and let it sink in with you for a moment, is like a needle touching a wound. You may feel your stomach tighten, the product of a primary social threat. As the last term in David Rock’s famous SCARF model, it represents one of the most potent […]

“Be” First, Then Decide What to “Do”

During my career as a leadership consultant and coach I’ve listened many times as a client leader has admitted some self-perceived failing. Jerome’s heartfelt “confession” was one of these moments. He sheepishly told me there was someone who reported to him who intimidated him, a manager who seemed to be “much faster intellectually” and “more […]

On Not Waiting for Superman

Michael Meade, mythologist and storyteller, says there are three layers of human interaction: “If the First Layer of human interaction is the common ground of manners, kind speech, polite greeting, and working agreements; if the Third Layer is the area of deeply shared humanity, the universal brotherhood and sisterhood of all people, of the underlying, […]

The Politics of Contempt

All you have to do these days is read just about any political post — say on Facebook if not some other favorite website –and then go to the comments section: Person A: “Person B, what a liar! You should be forced to prove your accusation. People like you are enemies of the state” Person […]