Category Archives: Self-Knowledge

Building Self-Trust

High self-trust is a essen­tial to lead­er­ship. At a bare min­i­mum we need it because lead­er­ship often demands we han­dle tense or sen­si­tive sit­u­a­tions and poten­tial­ly must make unpop­u­lar deci­sions. Some­times we must influ­ence not only our­selves but a team or sev­er­al teams or a whole orga­ni­za­tion.  I use this word, self-trust, instead of self-confidence […]

How to Meet a Strong Emotion

The prob­lem with strong emo­tions is that we over-iden­ti­­fy with them. It’s not that I feel sad. I am sad. It’s not that I feel envi­ous, or mad or guilty. Rather, all too eas­i­ly I become these emo­tions and act them out. Lat­er, I may say: “I was­n’t myself” (but, of course, I was.) If […]

Inner Worlds, Outer Actions

At the sec­ond con­ver­sa­tion with a new client, she said to me, “I real­ly got the point of what you said in our first ses­sion. It was kind of, ‘Stop whin­ing and get back to work.’ ” This was way off. I’d said no such thing. This was clear­ly the inner world of the client act­ing out […]

Addressing Your Own Leadership Blind Spots

I’ve post­ed a sequence of three videos to YouTube on address­ing your own lead­er­ship blind spots. I felt using video might make this top­ic more direct and per­son­al.  Blind spots are tough. We all have them and they can be chal­leng­ing to root out — giv­en espe­cial­ly that we often pre­fer oth­ers do their work […]