Category Archives: Wounds

On Unfairness

The very word, “unfairness,” if you slow down and let it sink in with you for a moment, is like a needle touching a wound. You may feel your stomach tighten, the product of a primary social threat. As the last term in David Rock’s famous SCARF model, it represents one of the most potent […]

The Politics of Contempt

All you have to do these days is read just about any political post — say on Facebook if not some other favorite website –and then go to the comments section: Person A: “Person B, what a liar! You should be forced to prove your accusation. People like you are enemies of the state” Person […]

Waking Up the World

It is a strange time, he said to me. No one can question that. Daily life goes on, but against a fractured background. Trust is naive, wouldn’t you say? And our imagined, much lauded future for a long time’s been little more than a broken puzzle. Problems have mounted, wouldn’t you say? A pile of […]

An Exercise to Reduce Negative Inner Voice

Recently, I’ve been working with a number of clients who are interested in reducing their negative thoughts, self-talk and defensive reactions. Here are some notes from our discoveries together and a related net search.* • Negative inner voice (inner critic) expresses thoughts initially formed as a set of rules and penalties aimed to protect us […]