Category Archives: Wounds

Breaking Society

Jared Kush­n­er, Trump’s son-in-law, recent­ly wrote a book called, “Break­ing His­to­ry.” It’s received poor reviews. How­ev­er, I do like the idea behind the title and have stolen it to name this post, “Break­ing Soci­ety” because that is the actu­al con­text for his book, a soci­ety in dan­ger through polar­iza­tion and mis­trust. Although that might seem […]

On Helping Each Other

It would seem like a sim­ple thing — in our work we should help each oth­er rather than com­pete. We should rein­force one anoth­er’s con­tri­bu­tions, not tear them down. And yet how good at this are we actu­al­ly? It’s fun­ny how the com­pe­ti­tion — for cred­i­bil­i­ty, for worth — can leak out of us in […]

The Reason for Evil

Gwen Adshead begins her recent book, The Dev­il You Know: Sto­ries of Human Cru­el­ty and Com­pas­sion, with an epi­graph from Carl Jung: “The rea­son for evil in the world is that peo­ple are not able to tell their sto­ries.” As a foren­sic psy­chol­o­gist and psy­chother­a­pist she’s heard some unimag­in­able ones — from decades of listening […]

The Mutiny Against Our Conditioning

As adults we come up against facets of our­selves that we wish to change. Uncon­scious big­otry, for exam­ple, or cer­tain aspects of intro­ver­sion or exces­sive guilt, impa­tience or ego­cen­tric­i­ty — our weak­ness­es and the results of our “over-strengths.” Tak­ing on these chal­lenges sounds good and promis­es a desir­able trans­for­ma­tion but in real­i­ty also por­tends the […]