Category Archives: Wounds

The Tender Spot

I am design­ing a new lead­er­ship work­shop and recent­ly I asked a friend and col­league for some feed­back about the design. As we reviewed the mate­ri­als and exer­cis­es, he stopped at one point and said, “I think you are going too fast here. What you are ask­ing peo­ple to share about them­selves in this part […]

Do You Know Who You Are?

Take your basic inter­per­son­al con­flict as an exam­ple. The issue is the way she treats me or he treats me. Why does­n’t he or she treat me bet­ter? On the sur­face, it’s not at all about what I might do dif­fer­ent­ly, but what the oth­er per­son ought to be doing or not doing. This is […]

On Dignity

Of many words that define good rela­tion­ships with oth­ers, such as trust, respect, care and under­stand­ing, the word dig­ni­ty often seems to have a less­er place. Yet what word bet­ter defines the need we expe­ri­ence in soci­ety today? It is almost tak­en for grant­ed that we live in a world where peo­ple can expect not […]

Moving Toward Wholeness

Not long ago my friend, Ed Batista tweet­ed that he felt inspired by how I had con­nect­ed lead­er­ship to psy­cho­log­i­cal whole­ness in a recent post. That was very kind, and it also plant­ed a seed. I’ve writ­ten before about what I think whole­ness is for lead­ers, but look­ing back to that 2011 post, I was disappointed […]