Category Archives: Wounds

An Exercise to Reduce Negative Inner Voice

Recently, I’ve been working with a number of clients who are interested in reducing their negative thoughts, self-talk and defensive reactions. Here are some notes from our discoveries together and a related net search.* • Negative inner voice (inner critic) expresses thoughts initially formed as a set of rules and penalties aimed to protect us […]

Leadership Feedback, Leadership Wounds

In one way or another, leaders are always receiving feedback. Sometimes it is from the voiced reactions of people at a meeting they are guiding. Sometimes it is more formal, for example from a staff survey or 360 degree appraisal process. As a consultant and coach, I’ve noticed a fairly common pattern in the process […]

On Fairy Tales

Often we can see someone else — a friend, perhaps — living out their untrue story, and we want to help. The other person says something like… “I’m an outsider — that’s just my nature!” — a story of feeling separate “Whatever room I’m in, I’m the smartest one there!” — also a story of […]

An Old, Universal Idea

Getting out of our own way is the biggest challenge. Whether we struggle with hubris or shame (or some of each), the challenge is waking up to what transcends our personal beliefs and mindsets, our collective conditioning, our inner and outer cultures that like mist on a window obscure our view of what’s real. Putting […]