Category Archives: Wounds

Waking Up the World

It is a strange time, he said to me. No one can question that. Daily life goes on, but against a fractured background. Trust is naive, wouldn’t you say? And our imagined, much lauded future for a long time’s been little more than a broken puzzle. Problems have mounted, wouldn’t you say? A pile of […]

An Exercise to Reduce Negative Inner Voice

Recently, I’ve been working with a number of clients who are interested in reducing their negative thoughts, self-talk and defensive reactions. Here are some notes from our discoveries together and a related net search.* • Negative inner voice (inner critic) expresses thoughts initially formed as a set of rules and penalties aimed to protect us […]

Leadership Feedback, Leadership Wounds

In one way or another, leaders are always receiving feedback. Sometimes it is from the voiced reactions of people at a meeting they are guiding. Sometimes it is more formal, for example from a staff survey or 360 degree appraisal process. As a consultant and coach, I’ve noticed a fairly common pattern in the process […]

On Fairy Tales

Often we can see someone else — a friend, perhaps — living out their untrue story, and we want to help. The other person says something like… “I’m an outsider — that’s just my nature!” — a story of feeling separate “Whatever room I’m in, I’m the smartest one there!” — also a story of […]