Category Archives: Conflict

Inner Worlds, Outer Actions

At the sec­ond con­ver­sa­tion with a new client, she said to me, “I real­ly got the point of what you said in our first ses­sion. It was kind of, ‘Stop whin­ing and get back to work.’ ” This was way off. I’d said no such thing. This was clear­ly the inner world of the client act­ing out […]

On Blind Spots

If you must be strong, you’ll react every time you see your­self being weak. You will stamp out weak­ness by being espe­cial­ly strong, dis­play­ing what your strength looks like so even you can see it. This may well have side effects, includ­ing look­ing espe­cial­ly weak and self-cen­tered as you beat up on oth­ers. If you […]

A Little Piece on Mind Control

What do you allow your­self to think about? What do you keep from aware­ness? As your con­scious­ness moves over an array of pos­si­ble sub­jects and options, accept­ing some and deny­ing oth­ers, are you notic­ing its famil­iar habits? This is an expe­ri­ence of your own mind as both con­troller and con­trolled, an expe­ri­ence of how you […]

On Dignity

Of many words that define good rela­tion­ships with oth­ers, such as trust, respect, care and under­stand­ing, the word dig­ni­ty often seems to have a less­er place. Yet what word bet­ter defines the need we expe­ri­ence in soci­ety today? It is almost tak­en for grant­ed that we live in a world where peo­ple can expect not […]