Category Archives: Choices

On Dignity

Of many words that define good relationships with others, such as trust, respect, care and understanding, the word dignity often seems to have a lesser place. Yet what word better defines the need we experience in society today? It is almost taken for granted that we live in a world where people can expect not […]

On Redemption

As a helper to people navigating their lives at work, I want to bring the very best of myself to every exchange. Yet there are times when the best of myself would never be enough. The solutions to the deep challenges that people face follow no special formula; for example, the linked, uphill struggles to […]

How to Talk to Each Other About Each Other

Over the years, working with both individuals and teams, the challenge recreates itself again and again: we fail to talk to each other about each other. We’d rather handle whatever difficulties we face in our relationships at work in almost any other way. “Separate the problem from the people,” says the guru, yet I’m here […]

On Unfairness

The very word, “unfairness,” if you slow down and let it sink in with you for a moment, is like a needle touching a wound. You may feel your stomach tighten, the product of a primary social threat. As the last term in David Rock’s famous SCARF model, it represents one of the most potent […]