Category Archives: Choices

How to Meet a Strong Emotion

The problem with strong emotions is that we over-identify with them. It’s not that I feel sad. I am sad. It’s not that I feel envious, or mad or guilty. Rather, all too easily I become these emotions and act them out. Later, I may say: “I wasn’t myself” (but, of course, I was.) If […]

Inner Worlds, Outer Actions

At the second conversation with a new client, she said to me, “I really got the point of what you said in our first session. It was kind of, ‘Stop whining and get back to work.’” This was way off. I’d said no such thing. This was clearly the inner world of the client acting […]

Addressing Your Own Leadership Blind Spots

I’ve posted a sequence of three videos to YouTube on addressing your own leadership blind spots. I felt using video might make this topic more direct and personal. Blind spots are tough. We all have them and they can be challenging to root out — given especially that we often prefer others do their work […]

The Hole and the Portal

People naturally turn to those they consider leaders in times of crisis — for answers, decisions, emotional support, for a clear path through tense realities that risk immense and painful change. If you want evidence of this turn toward leadership, note the wide-spread critique of the President’s inactions, corruptions and lies well represented by this […]