Category Archives: Choices

How to Talk to Each Other About Each Other

Over the years, working with both individuals and teams, the challenge recreates itself again and again: we fail to talk to each other about each other. We’d rather handle whatever difficulties we face in our relationships at work in almost any other way. “Separate the problem from the people,” says the guru, yet I’m here […]

On Unfairness

The very word, “unfairness,” if you slow down and let it sink in with you for a moment, is like a needle touching a wound. You may feel your stomach tighten, the product of a primary social threat. As the last term in David Rock’s famous SCARF model, it represents one of the most potent […]

On Not Waiting for Superman

Michael Meade, mythologist and storyteller, says there are three layers of human interaction: “If the First Layer of human interaction is the common ground of manners, kind speech, polite greeting, and working agreements; if the Third Layer is the area of deeply shared humanity, the universal brotherhood and sisterhood of all people, of the underlying, […]

On Abuse of Human Freedom

I asked that divination tool, The I Ching (The Book of Changes) what to do in the wake of last week’s shocking election results. It told me first to keep still (Hexagram 52. Kên | Keeping Still, Mountain) for awhile, with movement in the second line, suggesting there is an unstoppable trajectory to the situation, […]