Comments on: On Acceptance http://www.unfoldingleadership.com/blog/?p=188 ...Reflections at the Edge of Self-Knowledge... Tue, 07 Sep 2010 04:33:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Bugsy http://www.unfoldingleadership.com/blog/?p=188&cpage=1#comment-32690 Bugsy Wed, 21 Oct 2009 20:49:13 +0000 http://www.unfoldingleadership.com/blog/?p=188#comment-32690 Once one lets go of the external trappings of the ego, and exists as the vulnerable beast of benign survival, then one more appreciates the integrity and sacredness of all that is about him, thus passing through the eye-of-the-needle Once one lets go of the external trappings of the ego, and exists as the vulnerable beast of benign survival, then one more appreciates the integrity and sacredness of all that is about him, thus passing through the eye-of-the-needle

]]> By: Joe McCarthy http://www.unfoldingleadership.com/blog/?p=188&cpage=1#comment-32042 Joe McCarthy Thu, 21 Aug 2008 04:13:35 +0000 http://www.unfoldingleadership.com/blog/?p=188#comment-32042 Hmm, I see two possible interpretations of this mutuality: your acceptance of <i>yourself</i> gives me permission to accept myself ... and/or your acceptance of <i>me</i> gives me permission to accept myself. I suppose the mutual reinforcement arises in either interpretation. On a lighter note, I just happened to watch "Something About Mary" this weekend, so your reference to <a href="http://img.metro.co.uk/i/pix/2007/08/hookmouth_175x125.jpg" rel="nofollow">fishhooks</a> was especially evocative. Hmm, I see two possible interpretations of this mutuality: your acceptance of yourself gives me permission to accept myself … and/or your acceptance of me gives me permission to accept myself. I suppose the mutual reinforcement arises in either interpretation.

On a lighter note, I just happened to watch “Something About Mary” this weekend, so your reference to fishhooks was especially evocative.

]]> By: Dan http://www.unfoldingleadership.com/blog/?p=188&cpage=1#comment-32040 Dan Wed, 20 Aug 2008 05:36:06 +0000 http://www.unfoldingleadership.com/blog/?p=188#comment-32040 The beauty of your comment, Joe, is in the last part. As this post suggests, it seems to me the gift is within our awareness -- and acceptance -- of the parts of us we consider most unworthy of love. Perhaps this is because acceptance invites two almost magical things to happen: 1) we step back and in doing so remove some of the "fishhooks" of private pain that keep us blind (grief shared becomes bearable); and 2) in experiencing <em>your</em> acceptance I also see the potential of <em>my own</em>; in <em>mine</em>, you see something else of <em>yours</em>. Awareness comes, and with it healing, through <em>mutuality</em>. Consciousness creates itself in each of us, and then via community, in one another. Could there be a better form of art or more spectacular evidence of grace? The beauty of your comment, Joe, is in the last part. As this post suggests, it seems to me the gift is within our awareness — and acceptance — of the parts of us we consider most unworthy of love. Perhaps this is because acceptance invites two almost magical things to happen: 1) we step back and in doing so remove some of the “fishhooks” of private pain that keep us blind (grief shared becomes bearable); and 2) in experiencing your acceptance I also see the potential of my own; in mine, you see something else of yours. Awareness comes, and with it healing, through mutuality. Consciousness creates itself in each of us, and then via community, in one another. Could there be a better form of art or more spectacular evidence of grace?

]]> By: Joe McCarthy http://www.unfoldingleadership.com/blog/?p=188&cpage=1#comment-32039 Joe McCarthy Wed, 20 Aug 2008 04:43:15 +0000 http://www.unfoldingleadership.com/blog/?p=188#comment-32039 Dan: thanks for sharing your insights and experiences at the workshop - sounds like a moving experience in multiple dimensions! Your note about "human change is mostly not a linear journey" reminds me of Steven Jay Gould's concept of <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Punctuated_equilibria" rel="nofollow">punctuated equilibrium</a>, wherein change happens in widely varying levels of intensity over time. I enjoyed reading about Karen Lynch's conversion experience - it's amazing what we can experience when we just loosen up a bit an open to possiblities (or unfoldings, as it were). And, of course, I am always drawn to anything that helps reveal our "fundamental interconnectedness" ... well, at least, sometimes I am. There are other times when I am unwillng or unable to connect ... and that is a part of me I am unwilling or unable to love ... but I am willing to accept that part of me ... at least in the spirit of this moment. Dan: thanks for sharing your insights and experiences at the workshop – sounds like a moving experience in multiple dimensions!

Your note about “human change is mostly not a linear journey” reminds me of Steven Jay Gould’s concept of punctuated equilibrium, wherein change happens in widely varying levels of intensity over time.

I enjoyed reading about Karen Lynch’s conversion experience – it’s amazing what we can experience when we just loosen up a bit an open to possiblities (or unfoldings, as it were).

And, of course, I am always drawn to anything that helps reveal our “fundamental interconnectedness” … well, at least, sometimes I am. There are other times when I am unwillng or unable to connect … and that is a part of me I am unwilling or unable to love … but I am willing to accept that part of me … at least in the spirit of this moment.

]]> By: ashely http://www.unfoldingleadership.com/blog/?p=188&cpage=1#comment-32038 ashely Thu, 14 Aug 2008 21:29:07 +0000 http://www.unfoldingleadership.com/blog/?p=188#comment-32038 Thank you so much for this post, Dan. Well-stated and timely for me. I've shared over at Easily Amazed a practice that emerged recently to help me with my self-acceptance. With gratitude, Ashley Thank you so much for this post, Dan. Well-stated and timely for me. I’ve shared over at Easily Amazed a practice that emerged recently to help me with my self-acceptance.

With gratitude,
Ashley

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