There are two critically important behaviors that cause conflict on any scale — personal, group, or societal: Displaying these two fundamentally defensive behaviors, especially in ways that are insulting and degrading to others, without a doubt will generate conflict. Keep pushing and you’ll eventually begin to foment violence. This seems to be because these two… Continue reading Comments on a Divided Country
Category: Trust
Two Energies for Personal Change
As I’ve worked with leaders over the years I’ve noticed two patterns of personal growth. The first is based on the desire for personal agency — a topic I’ve addressed recently (and at many times) on this blog; the second is growth based on transcendence. Examples of personal agency include: These are all instances of… Continue reading Two Energies for Personal Change
The Psychic Space of Relationships
What’s clear is that when people come into one another’s presence, they essentially rub up against one another, transmitting signals to one another that are perceived as a combination of threats and welcomes. This is what it means to be in contact. Sometimes the threats outweigh the welcomes; sometimes the reverse. The threats and welcomes are at various… Continue reading The Psychic Space of Relationships
Toward Better Introspection
“We study ourselves to forget ourselves.” –Zen saying I The truth is that when it comes to the most difficult life or work challenges, many of us prefer acceptable, expert answers, the simpler and more straight-forward the better. And yet, that’s not always the case. There are also times when we also want to go… Continue reading Toward Better Introspection