Category Archives: Wounds

The Mutiny Against Our Conditioning

As adults we come up against facets of ourselves that we wish to change. Unconscious bigotry, for example, or certain aspects of introversion or excessive guilt, impatience or egocentricity — our weaknesses and the results of our “over-strengths.” Taking on these challenges sounds good and promises a desirable transformation but in reality also portends the […]

America’s Blind Spot

As a coach and consultant, the two most common problems I deal with are leadership blind spots and the challenge of standing up in one’s work and being real. Of course, there are many other issues, but these are the biggest vectors in my practice. Since George Floyd was murdered, America as a society once […]

The Tender Spot

I am designing a new leadership workshop and recently I asked a friend and colleague for some feedback about the design. As we reviewed the materials and exercises, he stopped at one point and said, “I think you are going too fast here. What you are asking people to share about themselves in this part […]

Do You Know Who You Are?

Take your basic interpersonal conflict as an example. The issue is the way she treats me or he treats me. Why doesn’t he or she treat me better? On the surface, it’s not at all about what I might do differently, but what the other person ought to be doing or not doing. This is […]