Category: Wounds

On Comparing Yourself to Others

We all know that com­par­ing our­selves to oth­ers comes with per­son­al and pro­fes­sion­al risks, the main one being that as indi­vid­u­als we can devel­op a sense that we lack some­thing that oth­ers have — and this is bad for our con­fi­dence, sense of dig­ni­ty and self-respect. But despite this aware­ness, for many if not most… Con­tin­ue read­ing On Com­par­ing Your­self to Others

Comments on a Divided Country

There are two crit­i­cal­ly impor­tant behav­iors that cause con­flict on any scale — per­son­al, group, or soci­etal: Dis­play­ing these two fun­da­men­tal­ly defen­sive behav­iors, espe­cial­ly in ways that are insult­ing and degrad­ing to oth­ers, with­out a doubt will gen­er­ate con­flict. Keep push­ing and you’ll even­tu­al­ly begin to foment vio­lence. This seems to be because these two… Con­tin­ue read­ing Com­ments on a Divid­ed Country

The Only Life You Could Save

My client strug­gles to put a life togeth­er.  A vice-pres­i­­dent, 48 years old, he treats his exis­tence like a bal­ance sheet, or rather a series of poten­tial bal­ance sheets, because in the moment things are out of bal­ance. He has a good job with hopes of advance­ment, yet no part­ner, lives in a cold city… Con­tin­ue read­ing The Only Life You Could Save

The Power of Mea Culpa

As a coach who works with all kinds of lead­ers, it’s inevitable that a cer­tain per­cent­age don’t come vol­un­tar­i­ly. That does­n’t mean they aren’t excit­ed to work with me; it means some­body else has said they need to find some­one to work with — in some cas­es with an implied “or else.” What I find… Con­tin­ue read­ing The Pow­er of Mea Culpa