Category: Conflict

On Comparing Yourself to Others

We all know that com­par­ing our­selves to oth­ers comes with per­son­al and pro­fes­sion­al risks, the main one being that as indi­vid­u­als we can devel­op a sense that we lack some­thing that oth­ers have — and this is bad for our con­fi­dence, sense of dig­ni­ty and self-respect. But despite this aware­ness, for many if not most… Con­tin­ue read­ing On Com­par­ing Your­self to Others

Story of a Conflict

Here is a chart of behav­iors, all hav­ing to do with how con­flicts are addressed. From left to right the first four approach­es are large­ly dys­func­tion­al. Third-Par­­ty Tac­tics often rep­re­sent an orga­ni­za­tion’s response to unre­solved, unman­aged con­flict and can be suc­cess­ful if the par­ties tru­ly agree with the out­come deci­sions. Final­ly, Human Con­tact rep­re­sents what… Con­tin­ue read­ing Sto­ry of a Conflict

Comments on a Divided Country

There are two crit­i­cal­ly impor­tant behav­iors that cause con­flict on any scale — per­son­al, group, or soci­etal: Dis­play­ing these two fun­da­men­tal­ly defen­sive behav­iors, espe­cial­ly in ways that are insult­ing and degrad­ing to oth­ers, with­out a doubt will gen­er­ate con­flict. Keep push­ing and you’ll even­tu­al­ly begin to foment vio­lence. This seems to be because these two… Con­tin­ue read­ing Com­ments on a Divid­ed Country

Conflict and Transcendence

Some con­flicts must be man­aged, mean­ing they con­tin­ue between peo­ple but they are not allowed to dom­i­nate the rela­tion­ship. We “agree to dis­agree,” we say. A more or less palat­able out­come at times that — in the­o­ry any­way — ends the con­test and inter­rupts dark­er feel­ings. I bet you’ve been there. So have I. How­ev­er, it… Con­tin­ue read­ing Con­flict and Transcendence