Category Archives: Choices

The Mutiny Against Our Conditioning

As adults we come up against facets of ourselves that we wish to change. Unconscious bigotry, for example, or certain aspects of introversion or excessive guilt, impatience or egocentricity — our weaknesses and the results of our “over-strengths.” Taking on these challenges sounds good and promises a desirable transformation but in reality also portends the […]

Don’t try to change your organization; change the underlying forces that make it what it is

In the nineteenth century, Charles Lyell, a Scottish geologist, professed the radical view that the same forces that shaped the Earth in the past were still operating in the present moment. His theory challenged the more palatable theory at the time that geological epochs ended in major, catastrophic events, such as species being wiped out […]

How to Meet a Strong Emotion

The problem with strong emotions is that we over-identify with them. It’s not that I feel sad. I am sad. It’s not that I feel envious, or mad or guilty. Rather, all too easily I become these emotions and act them out. Later, I may say: “I wasn’t myself” (but, of course, I was.) If […]

Inner Worlds, Outer Actions

At the second conversation with a new client, she said to me, “I really got the point of what you said in our first session. It was kind of, ‘Stop whining and get back to work.’” This was way off. I’d said no such thing. This was clearly the inner world of the client acting […]