Category: Fate and Destiny

Comments on a Divided Country

There are two crit­i­cal­ly impor­tant behav­iors that cause con­flict on any scale — per­son­al, group, or soci­etal: Dis­play­ing these two fun­da­men­tal­ly defen­sive behav­iors, espe­cial­ly in ways that are insult­ing and degrad­ing to oth­ers, with­out a doubt will gen­er­ate con­flict. Keep push­ing and you’ll even­tu­al­ly begin to foment vio­lence. This seems to be because these two… Con­tin­ue read­ing Com­ments on a Divid­ed Country

Toward Better Introspection

 “We study our­selves to for­get our­selves.” –Zen say­ing I The truth is that when it comes to the most dif­fi­cult life or work chal­lenges, many of us pre­fer accept­able, expert answers, the sim­pler and more straight-for­ward the bet­ter. And yet, that’s not always the case. There are also times when we also want to go… Con­tin­ue read­ing Toward Bet­ter Introspection

Three Voices: Truth, Kindness and Destiny

Self-Truth: This voice pro­vides ongo­ing assess­ment of the real­i­ties we must face — both the exter­nal and the inter­nal ones. When impaired or not present, this voice can lead to self-decep­­tion and dis­tor­tion. If there is “too much” self-truth we may be immo­bi­lized by its crit­i­cal judg­ments that we mis­in­ter­pret as truth. If “too lit­tle”… Con­tin­ue read­ing Three Voic­es: Truth, Kind­ness and Destiny

We Are Enough

Not long ago a client strug­gling with his con­di­tion­ing asked a telling ques­tion: “If I can’t be sure that the mes­sages I’m send­ing myself are true, how on earth can I trust my own judg­ment?” The con­di­tion­ing he bat­tled had to do with his con­stant wor­ries that he was mak­ing too many mis­takes in his… Con­tin­ue read­ing We Are Enough