Category: Journey of Unlearning

Toward Better Introspection

 “We study our­selves to for­get our­selves.” –Zen say­ing I The truth is that when it comes to the most dif­fi­cult life or work chal­lenges, many of us pre­fer accept­able, expert answers, the sim­pler and more straight-for­ward the bet­ter. And yet, that’s not always the case. There are also times when we also want to go… Con­tin­ue read­ing Toward Bet­ter Introspection

Using Projections to Gain Self-Knowledge

A pro­jec­tion hap­pens any­time some­one uncon­scious­ly places their own beliefs, desires, con­clu­sions or expe­ri­ences onto anoth­er per­son or group of peo­ple. In its pos­i­tive form, it may help us empathize with oth­ers, as we use our expe­ri­ence to imag­ine their real­i­ties. Unfor­tu­nate­ly, pro­jec­tion has a dark­er side and becomes less pos­i­tive when it serves as… Con­tin­ue read­ing Using Pro­jec­tions to Gain Self-Knowledge

We Are Enough

Not long ago a client strug­gling with his con­di­tion­ing asked a telling ques­tion: “If I can’t be sure that the mes­sages I’m send­ing myself are true, how on earth can I trust my own judg­ment?” The con­di­tion­ing he bat­tled had to do with his con­stant wor­ries that he was mak­ing too many mis­takes in his… Con­tin­ue read­ing We Are Enough

Trust Your Own Judgment

Judg­ment means draw­ing con­clu­sions, mak­ing deci­sions for your­self and act­ing on your best instincts.  Like a lot of lead­er­ship top­ics, it’s about too much or too lit­tle.  Too much trust of self can lead to biased or mag­i­cal think­ing.  Too lit­tle, we’re sim­ply let­ting oth­ers decide.  Some­where in the mid­dle is a sweet spot.  That’s not news but it’s some­times… Con­tin­ue read­ing Trust Your Own Judgment