We all do it. Those after-the-conversation fantasies about what we could have said or should have said during the exchange. For some reason, one of those times has come up for me lately, one that involved a presentation I did years ago for a CEO peer learning team, a small group of top executives who… Continue reading Things I Might Have Said
When Will I Be Seen?
For many years I’ve been interested in “conditioning,” the process by which a person adopts beliefs, values, and patterns of thought. Conditioning represents automatic and unconscious learning that enables a child to fit with his or her family and community. Conditioning has its downsides. We pick up views of others and especially of ourselves that… Continue reading When Will I Be Seen?
What do I want?
What do I want? That’s almost as powerful a question as “Who am I?” For when we don’t express what we want in a true and heart-felt way — first and foremost to ourselves — we lose a vital part of our joy in being exactly who we are. Ironically, in a society that over-values individualism,… Continue reading What do I want?
The Tyranny of Being Right
It’s such an easy thing to fall into: the desire, the need, to be right. It creates huge divides between us, drives us to say and do things that cause others to either disengage or retaliate. Later, we may console ourselves with the satisfaction of winning but it’s pretty much a cold dinner left on… Continue reading The Tyranny of Being Right