On Self-Confrontation

One could almost say the heart of reflec­tive lead­er­ship is the capac­i­ty for self-con­fronta­tion. It is not real­ly a skill. It is more a “psy­cho­log­i­cal move,” a men­tal and emo­tion­al re-posi­­tion­ing to look very hon­est­ly at one­self and one’s sit­u­a­tion. With­out it, we have no way to accu­rate­ly judge or respond to sit­u­a­tions, espe­cial­ly when… Con­tin­ue read­ing On Self-Con­fronta­tion

Little Behavior, Big Impact

I’m always amazed at how we make mean­ing out of oth­ers’ behav­iors — even, and maybe espe­cial­ly, the lit­tle stuff. I worked with a man­ag­er once who had a bad habit of not com­plet­ing email threads. You know, that last con­firm­ing “Thanks, I’ll see you then,” or “Okay, I’ve got the doc­u­ment. I’ll take a look… Con­tin­ue read­ing Lit­tle Behav­ior, Big Impact

When Will I Be Seen?

For many years I’ve been inter­est­ed in “con­di­tion­ing,” the process by which a per­son adopts beliefs, val­ues, and pat­terns of thought. Con­di­tion­ing rep­re­sents auto­mat­ic and uncon­scious learn­ing that enables a child to fit with his or her fam­i­ly and com­mu­ni­ty.  Con­di­tion­ing has its down­sides. We pick up views of oth­ers and espe­cial­ly of our­selves that… Con­tin­ue read­ing When Will I Be Seen?

Wikileaks and the Truth/Trust Dilemma

Truth and trust bear an impor­tant rela­tion­ship to one anoth­er. In fact, it could be said that they only oper­ate togeth­er effec­tive­ly when they are part­ners in the cre­ation or redemp­tion of human rela­tion­ships. In that regard they serve with­in a self-rein­­for­c­ing cycle. We can’t live well with­out either’s con­tri­bu­tion.  Too often in my work… Con­tin­ue read­ing Wik­ileaks and the Truth/Trust Dilemma

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