Category: Motivation

On Comparing Yourself to Others

We all know that com­par­ing our­selves to oth­ers comes with per­son­al and pro­fes­sion­al risks, the main one being that as indi­vid­u­als we can devel­op a sense that we lack some­thing that oth­ers have — and this is bad for our con­fi­dence, sense of dig­ni­ty and self-respect. But despite this aware­ness, for many if not most… Con­tin­ue read­ing On Com­par­ing Your­self to Others

Comments on a Divided Country

There are two crit­i­cal­ly impor­tant behav­iors that cause con­flict on any scale — per­son­al, group, or soci­etal: Dis­play­ing these two fun­da­men­tal­ly defen­sive behav­iors, espe­cial­ly in ways that are insult­ing and degrad­ing to oth­ers, with­out a doubt will gen­er­ate con­flict. Keep push­ing and you’ll even­tu­al­ly begin to foment vio­lence. This seems to be because these two… Con­tin­ue read­ing Com­ments on a Divid­ed Country

Two Energies for Personal Change

As I’ve worked with lead­ers over the years I’ve noticed two pat­terns of per­son­al growth. The first is based on the desire for per­son­al agency — a top­ic I’ve addressed recent­ly (and at many times) on this blog; the sec­ond is growth based on tran­scen­dence. Exam­ples of per­son­al agency include: These are all instances of… Con­tin­ue read­ing Two Ener­gies for Per­son­al Change

Growth Now

By growth I mean a positive change in the effectiveness of a person in their leadership capacities. This is actually harder to pull off than it sounds like it might be. We are built with strong, stabilizing internal mechanisms that show up as behavioral patterns etched into our personalities. To change that stuff means something… Continue reading Growth Now