Category: Choices

How to Talk to Each Other About Each Other

Over the years, work­ing with both indi­vid­u­als and teams, the chal­lenge recre­ates itself again and again: we fail to talk to each oth­er about each oth­er. We’d rather han­dle what­ev­er dif­fi­cul­ties we face in our rela­tion­ships at work in almost any oth­er way. “Sep­a­rate the prob­lem from the peo­ple,” says the guru, yet I’m here… Con­tin­ue read­ing How to Talk to Each Oth­er About Each Other

On Unfairness

The very word, “unfair­ness,” if you slow down and let it sink in with you for a moment, is like a nee­dle touch­ing a wound. You may feel your stom­ach tight­en, the prod­uct of a pri­ma­ry social threat. As the last term in David Rock­’s famous SCARF mod­el, it rep­re­sents one of the most potent… Con­tin­ue read­ing On Unfair­ness

On Not Waiting for Superman

Michael Meade, mythol­o­gist and sto­ry­teller, says there are three lay­ers of human inter­ac­tion: “If the First Lay­er of human inter­ac­tion is the com­mon ground of man­ners, kind speech, polite greet­ing, and work­ing agree­ments; if the Third Lay­er is the area of deeply shared human­i­ty, the uni­ver­sal broth­er­hood and sis­ter­hood of all peo­ple, of the under­ly­ing,… Con­tin­ue read­ing On Not Wait­ing for Superman

On Abuse of Human Freedom

I asked that div­ina­tion tool, The I Ching (The Book of Changes) what to do in the wake of last week’s shock­ing elec­tion results. It told me first to keep still (Hexa­gram 52. Kên | Keep­ing Still, Moun­tain) for awhile, with move­ment in the sec­ond line, sug­gest­ing there is an unstop­pable tra­jec­to­ry to the sit­u­a­tion,… Con­tin­ue read­ing On Abuse of Human Freedom