Category: Wounds

An Exercise to Reduce Negative Inner Voice

Recent­ly, I’ve been work­ing with a num­ber of clients who are inter­est­ed in reduc­ing their neg­a­tive thoughts, self-talk and defen­sive reac­tions. Here are some notes from our dis­cov­er­ies togeth­er and a relat­ed net search.* • Neg­a­tive inner voice (inner crit­ic) express­es thoughts ini­tial­ly formed as a set of rules and penal­ties aimed to pro­tect us… Con­tin­ue read­ing An Exer­cise to Reduce Neg­a­tive Inner Voice

Leadership Feedback, Leadership Wounds

In one way or anoth­er, lead­ers are always receiv­ing feed­back. Some­times it is from the voiced reac­tions of peo­ple at a meet­ing they are guid­ing. Some­times it is more for­mal, for exam­ple from a staff sur­vey or 360 degree appraisal process. As a con­sul­tant and coach, I’ve noticed a fair­ly com­mon pat­tern in the process… Con­tin­ue read­ing Lead­er­ship Feed­back, Lead­er­ship Wounds

On Fairy Tales

Often we can see some­one else — a friend, per­haps — liv­ing out their untrue sto­ry, and we want to help. The oth­er per­son says some­thing like… “I’m an out­sider — that’s just my nature!” — a sto­ry of feel­ing sep­a­rate “What­ev­er room I’m in, I’m the smartest one there!” — also a sto­ry of feel­ing… Con­tin­ue read­ing On Fairy Tales

An Old, Universal Idea

Get­ting out of our own way is the biggest chal­lenge. Whether we strug­gle with hubris or shame (or some of each), the chal­lenge is wak­ing up to what tran­scends our per­son­al beliefs and mind­sets, our col­lec­tive con­di­tion­ing, our inner and out­er cul­tures that like mist on a win­dow obscure our view of what’s real. Putting… Con­tin­ue read­ing An Old, Uni­ver­sal Idea

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