Category: Choices

The Only Life You Could Save

My client strug­gles to put a life togeth­er.  A vice-pres­i­­dent, 48 years old, he treats his exis­tence like a bal­ance sheet, or rather a series of poten­tial bal­ance sheets, because in the moment things are out of bal­ance. He has a good job with hopes of advance­ment, yet no part­ner, lives in a cold city… Con­tin­ue read­ing The Only Life You Could Save

Thinking for Yourself

Think­ing for your­self means think­ing inde­pen­dent­ly — being con­scious of old pat­terns and bias­es and work­ing to over­come them as you make your own judg­ments. This process can be about iden­ti­ty, work, rela­tion­ships — any­thing at all. And it’s impor­tant to con­sid­er because when our past con­di­tion­ing is in charge it does much of our… Con­tin­ue read­ing Think­ing for Yourself

Growth Now

By growth I mean a positive change in the effectiveness of a person in their leadership capacities. This is actually harder to pull off than it sounds like it might be. We are built with strong, stabilizing internal mechanisms that show up as behavioral patterns etched into our personalities. To change that stuff means something… Continue reading Growth Now

The Power of Mea Culpa

As a coach who works with all kinds of lead­ers, it’s inevitable that a cer­tain per­cent­age don’t come vol­un­tar­i­ly. That does­n’t mean they aren’t excit­ed to work with me; it means some­body else has said they need to find some­one to work with — in some cas­es with an implied “or else.” What I find… Con­tin­ue read­ing The Pow­er of Mea Culpa